Counseling can be very helpful for improving relationships – including the relationship you have with yourself. Self esteem, confidence, authenticity, and good communication skills are essential for creating a life you both enjoy being in.
Therapy can help you to build effective Communication Skills, learn to understand what you need and how to get those needs met constructively.
I give handouts to my clients that explain the concepts we are working with. We will practice new communication skills and find ways to apply the new skills you are learning. I will assist you step by step until it gets more comfortable and effective to ask for what you need without creating anger, resistance , resentment and withdrawal. You will learn new patterns that work better.
Get your marriage off to a strong start by already having learned the many skill sets that are needed for a long term relationship that you enjoy. Research shows that the way a couple communicates in the early years will set the stage for the entire relationship. Learn loving methods of solving problems.
I have specific, time proven methods, to help you stop getting stuck arguing about the same thing….. again and again. We will do a unique assessment for YOUR relationship to specifically determine the strengths and weaknesses, and what you would like to change. You will practice new ways of talking with each other, and learn how to solve the problems more effectively and with less stress. Learn to grow together instead of apart.
Learn to understand what is underneath the conflict. What is the real reason for conflict? Practice proven methods of assessing the problem; understanding the personality style of the people involved; and how to communicate in a manner that can create a positive outcome.
If you are interested in understanding your personality – or that of your partner – in more depth I have multiple tests and measures available. Knowing the ‘preferred style’ of yourself, your partner, a co-worker, or family member can be very valuable.
Life becomes much easier when you have a ‘tool box’ full of lots of different skills. Some examples would be: Effective Communication Skill Building (being able to talk with people in a way that creates the outcome you desire). It might be effective money handling and budgeting. Or, learning how to distribute work and duties at home effectively. It could be Assertiveness Training and Skills that help you speak up effectively – at the time – before you are really angry and upset. Effective Time Management is essential for personal and professional success. Agreement Keeping (including with yourself) builds trust and self esteem.